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2. What Can I Do if My Classmates Bully Me

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There are many strategies and research projects for dealing with bullying situations. Strategies, however, may not always be successful. We'll try to underline some typical behaviors which may prove valuable in certain situations.
Never respond to the provocations of the bully, and never submit to his demands or his bullying abuses. The thing he most wants is to see his victim humiliated, angry and / or in tears. The best thing to do is then to remain silent , not to answer and go away.
If you do not want to take such a passive attitude, firmly look into the eyes of the person who is provoking you, never use your hands, violence or bullying , but, rather, invite him to immediately stop his provocations against you. Tell him that, if the thing goes on, you're going to report everything to the principal of your school – although this recommendation might not be appropriate in an emergency moment. Also check, with the teacher responsible for health education, that the school has an intervention procedure for episodes of bullying.
Another good method of managing the relationship with the bully is to catch him unprepared, saying: "I am willing to discuss with you, but I have no intention of fighting or wrestling. So, calm down and let's talk about it\”. Often, this kind of approach is able to freeze the urge to violence that the bully has, and he will probably go in search of another victim.
Always have good friends and ask for their help if a bully wants to hurt or tease you. The real strength of the bully is found in the total absence of support around the victim.
The last thing you have to remember is the following: the alliance and the solidarity of the group expanded to the victim, and the repugnance toward the bully will make the latter feel lonely and isolated, and force him to change the way he uses to get noticed by friends.

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20 December 2014

Final Partners’ meeting

The fourth partners’ meeting took place in Florence (IT) on 15 December 2014. The meeting had the objective to check the activities carried out since the third meeting of the project and share and assess the in progress results. A special focus has been dedicated to the presentation of the strategies to solve the case scenarios.