TITLE OF THE SUCCESS STORY
Interest
COUNTRY WHERE IT TOOK PLACE
Turkey
AUTHOR OF THE SUCCESS STORY
Parent
SCHOOL TYPOLOGY
High Secondary School
THEMATIC AREA
Integration of immigrants students
DESCRIPTION OF THE SUCCESS STORY
We weren’t the first parents who break up. We knew that K. will understand this situation. Meanwhile we were waiting for K. to pass the preparatory class, after that we would tell him. At the same day he has been approved to registration in a high school in Istanbul we told him our decision to divorce. K. was losing his happiness and motivation to study day by day. I though it is because he is missing his mother so all that I could do was giving him some time. But K.’s absent-minded and silent attitude has never changed. His mother tried to make him speak and only supported her. I was trying to show some interest, so I always asked him questions about school. But I couldn’t have understood why he gave fluffy answers. I got in contact with the principal. I wanted to know whether this occasion has affected his subjects and if he was integrated to his school. K told his principal that his mother was bedfast so he had to care. Because of that he couldn’t go to school and wasn’t able to make his homework. I understood why he was so silent and introvert. He was missing his mother and charged me and the school for that.
While K. was going on with this I was trying – with the collaboration of the school counseling – to find ways to regain him back to school. We let him speak with other classmates whose parents also were divorced to give him the feeling he is not alone. Gradually, K. could understand that we didn’t divorce because of him. But I thought that this wasn’t enough. I took K to RAM. Gradually, K. got psychological support but it was not enough for K. to go to school willingly. One of the biggest problems was that his mother was far away. I have contacted my wife and I told her that we have to be taught as parents otherwise my interest on K. would make him sick and he would keep himself at bay.
The collaboration with my wife and the psychologist showed positive effects. K. has started to go to school willingly and he took part in social activities at school. He did not charge himself or his classmates for the problems he has encountered anymore. K was successful in integration in school.
CRITICAL ANALYSIS
If the father did not show patience and if he were not interested in him, everything would be harder and worse. Probably, K. who was seeking identity went astray. Because he took control over his friends and his teachers through lies. The father recognized this situation and he got into contact with the school.
The father saw intimacy in school. He saw that the school is working with the parents, the environment, RAM and the students in harmony. The principal and the teachers were patient with the father and they listened to him carefully. The solved every problem together. The change of K. was the result of a collaboration of school and family.
